Friday, December 5, 2014

88. the first prayer

After our solemnization, and photo ops and portraiture and what not, me and my husband finally settled into our bridal room. It was silence. Peaceful. It was around 8.30 pm, right after isyak prayers. The calm after the storm.

Right there and then, I rolled out the sejadah (prayer mat) he had given to me as one of the hantaran gifts, along with a telekung (garment women wear whilst praying). Instinctively, we decided to pray together. Solat jemaah.

The first prayer sealed the bond of husband and wife perfectly together. I knew the speed of my husband's prayer, his favourite surahs to read whilst he prayed, the angle of where he bent his head. It was a sweet, intimate moment, post prayer, when I kissed and salam-ed his hand.

For any bride-to-be's, I strongly suggest for you to pray with your husband. It is a sweet, tender moment you will remember forever.


Thursday, December 4, 2014

87. i am a puan!

Alhamdulillah, our akad nikah and bersanding has passed! My husband managed to lafaz the akad once. Am so proud of him :) Hope to chronicle our journey as husband and wife from now on.


SDE - SOLEMNIZATION JUNEE & FAHEEM from studio24seven on Vimeo.

Thursday, September 18, 2014

86. kes ragut/ assault + robbery @ oasis square

For many of those who know me, I was recently assaulted and robbed at B1 parking lot at Oasis Square, Ara Damansara.  Here is my Facebook post status which got a little viral.


I was not using my phone at that particular time. In fact, I had gone down to the parking lot with a colleague of mine who parked her car behind mine. She left for less than 5 minutes to retrieve something in the office. There was not a soul to be seen. Within that time, the attacker had assaulted me. He demanded my phone and when I had panicked and screamed my head off, he punched me in my face.

He took my Samsung Note 3, which I had saved for a long time, as a hantaran (wedding gift), before running off to his bike which he had hidden well, and drove off, I screamed for a good few minutes until my colleague came down. No security guards ever came.

The management team then arranged a meeting with me (where they had insinuated it was my fault for the attack by trying to established if I was using my phone at that time, or if I had any enemies) and asked me for some tips to make it more safe. I told them:
  • Allocated single ladies only parking on the ground floor
  • Increase more security presence
To my dismay, they have started:
  • Giving out fines to ladies who drive alone (my colleagues) who park their car on the ground floor, saying it's for reserved parking POST assault, and;
  • Every time me and my colleagues go down to the basement parking lot, it's empty. There is no security presence there post assault.

BTW the CCTV did not cover the area I was attacked in, and the quality was unclear for them to see the culprit's face. The management had admitted that there are many locations for the motorcycle to enter and leave the area, and that there was high probability that they will not identify the culprit. So whose fault is it now?

I am now terrified to go out alone, to be alone, and to drive myself. My fiancé has to drive me to work and send me to work as I can't be by myself any more. Who will replace my sense of insecurity? 

Please help share because the management doesn't seem to be making sense to me.

Friday, August 29, 2014

85. What makes a marriage work?

Me and the fiancé had an interesting conversation the other day.
He mentioned an article he read online, aaaand it goes something like this:
'Apparently there was this marriage counsellor, who wrote an article.. she said that nowadays the reason divorces are more frequent is due to the fact that women now are more independent compared to the olden days. Before this, women would stay at home, cook, do chores, have kids, looks after the kids, whilst the men would go out and find ways to make money. Men would be the one who cheat. Because they can. Women were more dependent on men. 
'But now, women are equally as successful, if not even more. Not all women stay at home, cook, do chores. Many women opt not to have kids. They find their own way to make money. Women are the one with the power to cheat.
'In the counselling sessions, the men had adopted more feminine traits, and the women adopted a more masculine trait. The men would be the one breaking down, crying. Whilst the women would admit, on their part, that they had cheated on their spouses. So in a way, society had switch roles,' he concluded, driving nonchalantly down Tol Sungai Besi.
'Okay, b, what is your point?' I asked.
'There is no point. Just sharing with you,' he replied.
Gender inequality or equality? 

When I thought about it, it's quite true. Women are so successful now! We are so driven and determined to forge our own career paths. And wow, my heart is full of pride to hear many females doing so well. Vivy Yusof from ProudDuck.com, Malaysia's own entrepreneur who successfully launched an online fashions store. Indra Nooyi, CEO of PepsiCO, the second largest food and beverage business in the world by net revenue. Beyonce. Oprah. Kimora Lee Simmons. Powerful, strong women.

Sometimes, I am scared at my own determination to make my own way in the world that I tend to say yes to every opportunity I get to expand my name.

But maybe... along the way, some career women (not these mega women) got caught up in the thrill of the chase. The adrenaline. It's fine when you start dating that you experience butterflies in your stomach. When you fret for hours about what you are suppose to wear on a date. When you're so comfortable with someone, you tend to forget about dressing up. Out comes the sweats, the hoodies. Letting him see you barefaced is okay. So maybe that is when the sizzle fizzles out.

BUT! When someone else woos you, you melt and immediately that's when the relationship is in troubled waters. That is when you forget about what you and your partner for life has gone through. Instead, you start having feelings for someone who is feeding you what you have felt before.


I don't think you get married, have kids, live old together and that's it. I think a marriage is hard work. I've witnessed many people who are married, and the love just disappears after X amount of years. All the imperfections are easy to see, easy to pick out, you begin to find his quirkiness annoying. All his flaws irritate you to no end.

So, in a marriage, I think there should always be a balance between partners. But the best thing is, to never let a marriage become routine. Yes it's nice to watch Walking Dead marathons. Go for brunch. Attend weddings together. Read books together. But the key is you need to always add spice and surprises. A vacation. A date. A movie. Reading interesting articles to each other, even if the other party is yawning away. A walk in the park. Roses. Chocolates. Special, er, nights. I think many people have emphasized on how sex is an important part of marriage. Hopefully, when someone reads this, he/she realizes that I love white and pink roses ahem. With God's will, may our union be blessed and full of good surprises!


This post is a tribute to my favourite Hollywood couple, BRANGELINA, WHO FINALLY WHO TIED THE FREAKING KNOT! I still love you Angelina even though you're a homewrecker. Ho!

Friday, June 6, 2014

83. HIV test

Alhamdulillah, we did our HIV test yesterday at Klinik Kesihatan Kelana Jaya (non-reactive for us)! For some bride-to-be's, here are some tips for you:
  1. If you're submitting your marriage forms to JAIS, the borang ujian saringan HIV is available at the clinic. If you're submitting your marriage forms to JAWI, please download the Borang Ujian Saringan HIV from http://www.jawi.gov.my/borang/borang_hiv.pdf Make sure you print 3 copies for yourself, 3 copies for your partner.
  2. As soon as your enter, turn right to "Kemasukan Pesakit Luar", counter 1, where you have to queue. No need to take a number. State that you're there to take the Ujian Saringan HIV for akad nikah; they will give you an additional form to fill in.
  3. Submit all your filled in forms; the person behind the counter will pass you a number and tell you to wait for your name to be called.
  4. Once your name has been called, collect the forms from the counter 1; they will tell you to proceed to the injections/tests area, where you place your documents in a document box next to the door.
  5. Wait for your names to be called. 
  6. When they call your name, go into the ward and have your HIV test taken. NO, it's not a big needle or syringe or whatever. They'll do an alcohol swab on the area, prick a needle into one of your fingers, then they'll swab blood from your finger into a test swatch thing (looks like a pregnancy test kit).
  7. According to the guy who took my blood test, the test response takes very fast - around 15 minutes - but waiting for the doctor to sign the test might take up to an additional half an hour.
  8. Wait for your name to be called out and receive your test results!

I was surprised that there wasn't even any charge for us (was expected to pay RM 1 per person). It was very fast and efficient (around 1 hour for everything). There's an open car park around the area for RM 3 per entry, so no worries about parking.

No need to take full day leave, half day will do. Come either morning session (not sure of the time) or noon session (2 pm - 4 pm). No appointments accepted, walk-ins only. This was my experience at government clinic, and a very pleasant and efficient one. Please note that the test is valid for up to 6 months only :)

Best of luck, future brides! This tips/advice is only for Klinik Kesihatan Kelana Jaya, am not sure about the procedures from other clinics.

Monday, June 2, 2014

82. One Step Closer!

Alhamdulillah, me and my fiance collected our Sijil Kursus Pra Perkahwinan (pre-wedding course certificate). It's a small feat but it's one thing less to worry about.


Honestly, there's still a long way to go. Since we have to complete the HIV test (it's valid for six months only), I thought I could get all the applications out of the way... but one person is telling me this, another is telling me that. It's too complicating...

Scenario:
Me and my fiance are living and working in KL.
Our akad nikah (solemnization/"I Do's") takes place in Putrajaya.
The lady on the phone told us that we could book the jurunikah (the guy who officiates the ceremony) from KL, no problem.

But when I met the lady to collect the pre-wedding course cert, she informed me that it would be easier to get the jurunikah from Putrajaya.
The problem is, if there are any complications, I will definitely have to take a day off work (or half day) as Putrajaya is quite a distance from my current house.

Add to that, when I called the clinic to make a booking for the HIV test, the receptionist informed me I had t otake HIV approval papers from JAKIM (the Islamic regulatory gov agency that controls all marriage application) BEFORE coming to the clinic. I prefer to do everything one shot. So, do I take from JAKIM KL? Putrajaya? 

Oh. And some other lady said I shouldn't do it too early -__- Then how the hell else do I book the jurunikah. Grrrrr. WAIIII MALAYSIAN GOVERNMENT WAI YOU MAKE IT SOO CONFUSING TO GET MARRIED.


Sunday, June 1, 2014

81. Saturday with Seqoci's 1st Anniversary Tea Party

I received an invite to help emcee and help the launch of Seqoci's 1st Anniversary Tea Party on Saturday, 31st May at Royale Bintang Curve. I agreed to it because Tassa, a friend from a workplace had invited me, and another ex-colleague, Adeline, would be there. So I thought it would be super fun to work again with these ladies!

Adeline, Tassa and me!

(I don't really have any individual shots at the moment, Tassa is probably editing it cause I look like such a berk lol). It was a very intimate and casual event, with less than 40 pax. The guests comprised of winners of some Seqoci contests, Seqoci fans and Seqoci vendors.

(Sorry Suzy! Tak jumpa on IG, nanti I cari you  - picture from Seqoci IG)

Everyone was really attentive to Suzy, Seqoci's make-up artists for models photoshoot, as she demonstrated a day look and a night look on participants. I learned a lot about using base make up for the face, the differences between pressed, loose and compact powder. A trick to keeping make-up stay on is to use ice on your face before placing your foundation. Suzy was very helpful on the shades to use for Asian skin tone. Will definitely KIV her for my wedding make-up!

CandySofea giving tutorial on Adeline- taken by me

Another talented lady who spoke for the day was CandySofea; This model-cum-youtuber was very sweet in demonstrating different and creative ways to play with the hijab style of tudung. She even dressed up Adeline, who was a volunteer to try on a hijab style. You can check out her instagram at http://instagram.com/candysofea

Asides from the interesting tutorials, Seqoci had a special preview and sales for the guests, including Maysaa, Raqtive, Sooka Scarf, Kyla Ruiz, Nade el Luna and other brands, just to name a few.


We took home an awesome goodie bag containing:
  •  A black slip skirt from Maysaa
  • A black chiffon shawl from Miasweetopia
  • Yasin and tasbih courtesy of Telekung Kareful
  • RM 100 Seqoci voucher
All the brands are available under Seqoci, of course. Thanks Seqoci for organizing such a great event! It was a really great event to meet so many sweet and talented girls, some from Bangi, Ampang etc. I had a blast emceeing the event, and it helped my communication skills immensely.


And ohhh yeah! Some shots with big boss, Danny! This is the talented bunch behind Seqoci (minus Nana, who's sick). Visit http://www.seqoci.com for the latest and trendiest Muslimah apparels!